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    Sir Withlove
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    Predictably, Adam will become besotted with whatever baby or child he and Ian adopt. I saw “predictably,” except that neither Adam nor Ian seems to consider this possibility. The only person talking sense in this whole plotline is Lillian, with “Men have been having babies to please their partners since year dot.” The crucial point NOT being that men always hate their kids, but that they tend to love their kids DESPITE their initial ambivalence (which is probably true of just as many women). Any parent who isn’t a bit terrified of having a child is living in a fantasy larger than Emmer’s Dream House.

    #5443
    Miss Mid-City
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    Amazing, isn’t it, how quickly the issue of having a child at all has been resolved between them?!

    I thought Ian had warned Adam never to raise the subject again last week, now here they are planning an adoption. It makes me wonder how thorough the screening process will be?!

    Both Ian and Adam are mardy and sulky. In soap opera land as in life, having a baby doesn’t always “glue” couples together.

    #5445
    Scott Matthewman
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    I’d disagree that it’s been resolved at all. The difference in attitudes between Adam and Ian and Jennifer’s dinner party showed that they’re not both on completely the same page.

    Of my friends circle, two LGBT couples have gone through the adoption process, and they had very different experiences from one another in terms of how long it took. It does seem to vary quite a lot based on which local authority is responsible; and even once approved, how long it takes to be matched with a child varies as well. Two of my friends were matched with their son, who was then approaching 1yr, very quickly indeed; they’ve since decided they want to adopt again, and have been on the waiting list for two years.

    #5466
    Kosmo
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    Given that the story goes back 5 or more years to when Mads was going to have a baby the story feels like it has been found at the back of the cupboard and given a dusting down. Adam has strayed twice in that period. Are they really up to dealing with a teenager in 10/15 years time?

    #5470
    Janis Poe
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    I like this storyline, it’s got a lot of interesting angles to it, from some of the comments on social media I feel that as two gay men Adam and Ian are subject to more criticism and scepticism about their ability to parent than a non gay couple would be. Obviously they will need to prove there ability and willingness to deal with whatever an adopted child throws at them (no pun intended). As I understand it the adoption process is challenging and thorough with an additional process to match the family to the child. There are difficulties in Adam and Ian’s relationship due to Adams infidelity and hopefully the process will help them make the right decisions for their future and any future children. Like the coercive control storyline there will hopefully be a positive impact in raising awareness of fostering and adoption in the country as there is a shortage of carers at present.

    #5471
    Janis Poe
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    I should have listened to last nights episode before posting above! Looks like this is veering towards a surrogacy storyline and away from adoption, however still lots of points of interest in the story.

    #5481
    Nancy
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    What if Helen, as a practical experiment, were to leave Jack in their care while she takes Henry off on a two week holiday? They would then have an opportunity to experience firsthand what caring for a baby entails, and how they would cope with it. At the very least, it would make for an interesting 12 episodes, I think.

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